"Tell Her I Love Her" by Love, Lies and Fiction

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"Tell Her I Love Her" is a re-release of a song we previously recorded (for those of you who are new to the band). Available on all streaming platforms here: http://bnd.lc/thilh

We've attempted to create a new musical arrangement around it that reflects our new sound with the blend of hip hop drums and organic drums, keyboards and rock guitar.

The song is about "ghosting" -- when someone ends a relationship by simply vanishing and being unreachable. It leaves a hole where once there was friendship, where once there may have been intimacy. The person who is ghosted often projects their worst fears into the absence of information around why the person disappeared as in, "was it something I said? Something I did? Did I make them angry? Were they offended by something?"

We as humans often project our deepest seated fears into that absence of information, and we are tortured by our own minds as we imagine all the reasons it might have happened. And worst of all, most people imagine their own faults and shortcomings as the reason for the other person's actions.

In this song, we speak to the opposite side of that equation: The person who did the ghosting. We don't absolve him, or seek to justify their actions. Instead we hope to reveal that even the person who does the ghosting can suffer as a result (if they're not a sociopath, of course). "Tell Her I Love Her" shows the longing for relationship and love from the person who did the ghosting, revealing that his reason for ghosting wasn't a good reason, just his own insecurity, fear of commitment, etc. By the end of the song, he realizes his mistake -- he cannot ask a friend to casually check-in with this person, and pass along that he's sorry and wishes to undo his error. He has to do it himself, "face to face. It's gotta come from me, not you... I know what I've gotta do... I gotta tell her I love her..." While we all beat ourselves silly with our own negative self talk, maybe this song will convince someone, somewhere, that the person who has ghosted, has their own issues, and that it's not their (the ghostee's) fault.